Question to Sri Mother:
It is said that to become conscious of divine Love all
other love has to be abandoned. What is the best way
of rejecting the other love which clings so obstinately
and does not easily leave us?
Mother says:
Love between human beings, in all its forms, the
love of parents for children, of children for parents, of brothers
and sisters, of friends and lovers, is all tainted with ignorance, selfishness and all the other defects which are man’s ordinary
drawbacks; so instead of completely ceasing to love—which,
besides, is very difficult as Sri Aurobindo says, which would simply dry up the heart and serve no end—one must learn how to love better: to love with devotion, with self-giving, self abnegation, and to struggle, not against love itself, but against its distorted forms: against all forms of monopolising, of attachment, possessiveness, jealousy, and all the feelings which accompany these main movements. Not to want to possess, to dominate; and not to want to impose one’s will, one’s whims,one’s desires; not to want to take, to receive, but to give; not to insist on the other’s response, but be contentwith one’s own love; not to seek one’s personal interest and joy and the fulfilment of one’s personal desire, but to be satisfied with the giving of one’s love and affection; and not to ask for any response. Simply to be happy to love, nothing more.
It is said that to become conscious of divine Love all
other love has to be abandoned. What is the best way
of rejecting the other love which clings so obstinately
and does not easily leave us?
Mother says:
Love between human beings, in all its forms, thelove of parents for children, of children for parents, of brothers
and sisters, of friends and lovers, is all tainted with ignorance, selfishness and all the other defects which are man’s ordinary
drawbacks; so instead of completely ceasing to love—which,
besides, is very difficult as Sri Aurobindo says, which would simply dry up the heart and serve no end—one must learn how to love better: to love with devotion, with self-giving, self abnegation, and to struggle, not against love itself, but against its distorted forms: against all forms of monopolising, of attachment, possessiveness, jealousy, and all the feelings which accompany these main movements. Not to want to possess, to dominate; and not to want to impose one’s will, one’s whims,one’s desires; not to want to take, to receive, but to give; not to insist on the other’s response, but be contentwith one’s own love; not to seek one’s personal interest and joy and the fulfilment of one’s personal desire, but to be satisfied with the giving of one’s love and affection; and not to ask for any response. Simply to be happy to love, nothing more.
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